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Caregiving: Tips for long-distance caregivers
What is long-distance caregiving?
How can I keep on top of my loved one's care from long distance?
How can I make the most of visits with my loved one?
I feel guilty that I'm not there enough for my loved one. What can I do?
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How to get started
Planning that supports long-distance caregiving
What you can do from a distance
How to make the most of visits
Understanding elder abuse
Dealing with guilt
How can I make the most of visits with my loved one?
Careful planning can help you effectively use your time with your loved one. For example:
- Find out what your loved one needs. Before visiting your loved one, talk to him or her about what tasks you might be able to assist with during your trip. Does your loved one need to go shopping, or is there something at the house that needs to be fixed?
- Schedule appointments. Ask your loved one if you can accompany him or her on a doctor's appointment during your visit. This will give you an opportunity to discuss your loved one's health, medications and any other questions you might have. Take notes on the doctor's recommendations. Ask the doctor to suggest any helpful community resources. Consider making appointments with your loved one's lawyer and financial adviser, too.
- Look for signs of problems. During your visit, check to see how well your loved one is managing daily tasks. Is your loved one able to drive safely, eat regular meals, keep up with personal grooming, and pay his or her bills? Is your loved one taking medications as prescribed? Ask your loved one's friends and neighbors if they've noticed any behavioral changes, health problems or safety issues.
- Set aside quality time. Ask your loved one about simple activities that he or she enjoys most, and do those things together. You might watch a movie, play cards, or take your loved one to visit friends or family — find out what your loved one wants to do, and do that.